One of the big sources of conflict in my life at the moment is over how to choose what I commit to. It’s currently the time of year where things slow down for me – I’ve finished my college assignments for the year, and my other projects are starting to wind down.
This is the point in the year where I think through what to sign up for next year: I thought I’d check in with anyone who might be reading this for some advice.
A friend recently said to me: “Life is not meant to be just hard work, but if you believe it will be, it will be.” This rings true with me: if you’re looking for a constant stream of commitments with no downtime in between, there’s no shortage of people who will line up to take up your time with their projects.
From time to time, people tell me I should slow down – drop some commitments. A couple of groups of people who say this are hard to listen to. One, those people who are taking things pretty easy themselves: it’s hard to listen to their advice, as their values on how to spend time don’t line up with mine very well. Two, the people who are in charge of one or more of your commitments – the subtle message is that their commitments are not the ones that you should drop.
What I’m hoping for next year is a level of commitment where I’m achieving things on the projects I’ve picked, but still have the freedom to do some things spontaneously, and the emotional energy to give things back to other people.
How do you decide what to commit yourself to?